When I first heard about Ageplay, I didn’t think I got it. And I had the same reaction as many of being a little skeeved out. I thought it was a healthy expression of pedophilia or incest– so nothing wrong with it, but not my cup of tea.
Except there was this specific moment when I realized I DID get it. Katherine Deane was writing an ageplay section in The Winter Storm and she told me that she got turned on writing the “Oh, no, please don’t spank me, Daddy,” parts. And my belly sommersaulted. That tweaked me too.
So I gave it some thought. Did I have a thing for “Daddy”?
I remembered that when my husband and I first met and were in our flirty courting stage, he used to chase me around and play “monster”, (I would shriek and giggle and run) hold me down and tickle me, and otherwise let my Little out to play. He also was quite dominant, making it very clear when he didn’t like something, making the decisions, taking care of me/us, etc.
I also considered that I’ve been wired this way my entire life, which means I have been masturbating to thoughts of spanking since my very earliest memories. That means, initially, my fantasies were adult/child. They were never about MY daddy, but the spanker was a daddy figure, and the heroine was a little girl. As I grew older, the heroine grew too. She was a teenager, spanked by an authority figure–a chamber maid, spanked by her lord, a student spanked by her teacher, etc. Eventually, the pairings turned into romantic couplings–husband/wife scenarios, or spanking with sex and romance.
So of course a Daddy Dom wound my crank– I’ve had years of fantasies that involve exactly that. And it doesn’t mean I want to have sex with my own father!
I also note there was a delay in the ages of my heroines as related to my own age. In my twenties, she was still a teenager. I don’t think I turned to romantic spanking in fantasy until my thirties. So I totally get it–many people’s fantasies have not changed since their initial interest, so ageplay is the perfect expression of their desires.
I enjoyed writing my first ageplay immensely–I found the nurturing aspect of the daddy dom to be overwhelmingly sweet and tender. I went back and forth a bit about the sex during ageplay thing. I guess going into it, I couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t have sex during play– because it’s a fetish, it turns you on. But once I really got into my character, I suddenly understood the innocence there, and I did understand why some prefer ageplay without sex. I ended up changing all the “Fucks” to milder language but I left the sex, because well, I like sex. 🙂
I would love to hear your thoughts on ageplay— do you love it? Do you secretly love it? Do you think it’s bizarre? Please leave a comment!